8 Obvious Signs You’re in Love with a Giant A**Hole

It is said that if you want to ascertain the personal traits of an individual you need only spend some time travelling with them. That way they will reveal their personality in the most discernible way.

We are not recommending taking your romantic partner on long trips just to see if they are truly what meet the eye. We are merely suggesting a strong possibility that you cannot assess someone solely on their behavior on the first few dates since they will be at their best. It is not just their personality that may irk you once you learn about them but more importantly how they make you feel.

Sometimes the behavior is very subtle to realize it early on so avoid investing in such a relationship. If your partner is exhibiting the following signs it is obvious they are a jerk.

8. They will say one thing but do completely opposite
One of the major signs you are dating a jerk is a guy who does not follow up on their promises and usually leave you to deal with it on your own. A responsible guy will let you know beforehand if they will not be able to make it to the date and not just leave you hanging.

This is the least they can do but if they don’t feel the need to even explain their irresponsible actions and act as though waiting you up was not something which demands any justification on their part they are not worth your time.

7. Relationship with them seems volatile
One minute you might be enjoying their company sharing laughter and the next moment they will be wandering in their thoughts. You will feel as though there is a switch which is flipped on and off the way they conduct themselves with you. It is anything but a stable relationship.
This may be explained by the fact that maybe they are looking for someone else for a relationship and only spending time with you for the time being. It never feels you are both close to each other since they being a jerk are only with you until they find someone to substitute you.

6. They want things done their way
Relationships are based on equality and it only work when both the individuals are willing to work together.

However a jerk will always try to take charge of the situation and impose their opinion on others without making any compromises. This is not a good sign to be always dominated by your partner in a relationship and no one can survive it for that long.

Being narcissistic is despicable and it only takes little time before a person wants to get out from the relationship.

5. Manipulating behavior
They will bring out the worst in you by constantly highlighting the negatives in your personality. They will manipulate you in such a way that you will be under a lot of self-doubt and start to blame yourself for the flaws in the relationship.

They will feed off of your insecurities and would want to keep you in that state because otherwise you will realize what a total douchebag they really are.

4. They are always concerned about their own needs
It is too common to find them busy when you want to hangout or simply need them but as soon as they want you they will not take no for an answer. It is as though they don’t care about your needs.

You are only a priority when it ‘feels right’ to them. Otherwise you may not qualify for much attention. This is not only disrespectful but extremely selfish behavior and a person will do well to abandon them as soon as possible.

3. They will bad mouth people who are important in your life
Only if a person doesn’t care about their partner’s feelings would speak mean things about the individuals they care about. This is not cool. If a person is this immature they are not fit to be in a relationship with you in first place.

2. Insulting under the pretext of humor
They may have a twisted sense of humor which may border on disrespect. They may have an insulting nickname for you or other ways of belittling you in public and once you protest they hide it under the façade of humor. It is not humor if it is causing you pain. It is plain disrespect. They might try to manipulate you by referring you as overly sensitive but the truth of the matter is they are not at all considerate of your feelings.

1. On the defensive once you confront them
Since they are always trying to manipulate and make their point of view prevail they will never feel the need to logically explain their flaws. If confronted about the many negatives they are bringing to the relationship they will always present themselves with an impressive sob story to appear emotionally disturbed.
The moment things start to clear up a bit they will be back to their old usual selves.